After the first date
Going out on a first date with someone can be one of the most nerve-wracking experiences a human being can have. The understanding, which remains unspoken, between the two people involved is that if things go well, they could end up being an exclusive couple with the prospect of living together and all that that entails. This is, however, quite a big potential commitment, and speaking about it early in the relationship can lead to one party becoming “spooked” and ending the arrangement very quickly.
In this respect, actually reaching a second date can be considered something of an achievement. After the first date and before the second, there may be a period where the possibility of future dates is by no means certain. Should a second date be agreed, however, there is usually a more relaxed feel to the occasion than the first, and there can be a lot more freedom of choice as to the venue. By now, the possibility of having things in common is greater, and allows for specific places and activities. After a few dates, inviting your potential partner to your home becomes a more acceptable option. Of course, these rules are once again simply arbitrary and non-binding. It is for the dating couple to decide their own rules.
As dates continue, conversation should flow more naturally. The nervous tension of the first date will often make for awkward pauses, but as you get to know each other better you will know when to speak, what to speak about, and when to be silent and let things be natural.